People have the natural desire to want to change the beliefs of others to the belief of their group. We want to change others beliefs because we are social animals. An import part of being a social animal is identifying with a group and its culture. Culture refers to the values and beliefs which the members of the group share. It is programmed into human nature to want to protect the values and beliefs of the group and at the same time attempt to recruit more members to your group. By attempting to change the values of others, you are subconsciously attempting to recruit more members for your group. Everyone, including myself, forgets that the goal of influence is to change the person’s actions, not their beliefs. In this post, I will examine how to reframe points to fit the other person’s beliefs, that way you can change their actions but first we need to learn how human beings process information.
Seeing things from different perspectives and views.
In a previous post, Myths - reflections of our cultural subconscious, I described how myths, even ones we no longer believe, affect our subconscious. In this post, I will examine the invention of good and evil and how this myth continues to affect the subconscious decisions of even Atheists. The purpose of this invention is to discredit someone’s positive results based on something called intent. The reverse is negative results can be turned into positive intentions. The concept of good and evil originated with religion, until recent times, culture and religion were the same.
Can learning mental math help you survive being imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp? Yes, ten years ago, I read a book entitled, The Trachtenberg Speed System of Basic Mathematics, by Jakow Trachtenberg. I can not remember the system but I remember the author’s biography. Jakow Trachtenberg was a Jewish engineer who was sent to a concentration camp. He enjoyed mathematics but could not practice his hobby since he lacked paper. To keep himself mentally stimulated he developed a method to mentally calculate. He later accredited his survival of the concentration camp to the mental math system he developed. How did creating a mental math system help Jakow Trachtenberg survive a concentration camp?
At 75 years of age, he still could shovel half a ton of coal by hand. His face bore the scars of countless fights with police and strike breakers. In his day, social media did not exist, firing into striking miners happened frequently. He would laugh as he described how he walked over 5000 miles in one year from coal mine to coal mine, the police were watching all bus terminals and train stations. He knew if they took him into custody, he wouldn’t survive the questioning. He laughed that the police and mine owners never counted on how strong his legs were. If you asked this man, was he a leftist, he proudly would say yes. Even at 75, he wasn’t afraid to defend his point of view in a bar with his fists. How did the Limousine Liberals turn men like this into sniveling whining pussies?
From a western perspective, Filipinos are paradoxical. They are extremely honest and yet at the same time extremely dishonest. The politically incorrect reality is culture affects how the brain operates, there are countless studies which show this. If culture didn’t affect how the brain operates, books like Filipino American Psychology wouldn’t exist. In this post, I will examine the causes of this paradox and what you can do to make your dealings with Filipinos more amiable. Before we can get to that point, if is important to realize what appears rational to you might appear illogical to others.
You are using facebook, facebook customizes your feed according to your belief system. You are a Trump supporter, you see a post about how a Clinton supporter belongs to a radical Islamic group. This confirms your belief system, Clinton is evil, a feel-good endorphin rush hits you. You then scan the news feeds for similar posts. You are using social media exactly how it was designed. Let’s look at things from a hardcore feminist point of view. You are a hardcore feminist, you see an article in Huffington post about how the female shadow cabinet minister for domestic violence is accused of physical violence against her husband. You read the Huffington post article, you find out that she was allegedly provoked by her husband, men even when they are victims are at fault. The article spins it so the female shadow cabinet minister is actually the victim, evil patriarchal men are calling for this minister to resign. As a hardcore feminist, you view of the world is affirmed, you feel a massive rush of feel-good endorphins. You then scan your news feed for more articles about evil men. Social media is changing the structure of your brain, causing you to lose valuable skills. Before you get rid of your internet connection and all your electronic gadgets, let’s explore what the purpose of automation is.
This is a concern trolling post. The term concern trolling is a rationalization to justify not taking action, the person is Lying to the person in the mirror. In your workplace, maybe a conversation about fake news sites comes up. According to mainstream media, Briebart News Network. Instead of pointing out that fake news sites are usually right of center sites, you decide to sit back and not take action. To justify your lack of action you cite Law 38: Think as you like, but behave like others from Robert Greene’s book The 48 Laws of Power. Your brain doesn’t have to think too hard, you feel happy. As usual, I will take you on a thinking journey, sit back and relax. Let us start by proving the laws are wrong. What? That is heresy you scream. Relax, Robert Greene has many good points, I respect him. This post will be about the difference between laws and principles.
The Colonel ordered the Regimental Sergent Major (RSM) to have us formed up on the parade ground in one hour. The RSM performed his magic, one hour later we were standing at ease waiting, wondering what the Colonel was going to tell us. The comedians in my platoon were all whispering jokes, you learn how to talk in the ranks without getting caught. “Stuff a sock in it. Get ready” barked the Sergent. We all shut up and got ready. “Attention”, barked the RSM, he then turned regiment over to the Colonel who then told us to stand at ease, stand easy. “Remember ..” the Colonel said. The moment I heard those words, I knew it would be bad news. Really bad news. I tried to make myself smaller, hopefully, they would not be asking for volunteers.
Trigger warning - what you are about to read might cause confusion or weird sensations. You might experience fear as your perception of reality is being challenged. You will have the impulse declare me a ranting lunatic. If you can not handle these sensations, please stop reading know. The saying, Don’t ask a fish how to catch fish, ask a fisherman is common in male seduction forums. The advice is valid because the fish and fisherman occupy different realities. Science has proven that our perception of reality is an illusion. What is reality?
Many common perceptions about bullies are incorrect. That bullies suffer from low self-esteem, they are depressed or they have low social status. In this post, I will break these myths. I will give my opinions on why people, particularly men bully, and how to deal with bullies. Due to my background, I have extensive experience dealing with bullies. While I am discussing this subject, it might crack your perception of reality, this will cause you discomfort. When our belief systems are challenged it is normal to feel discomfort. First, let’s break the bullies have low self-esteem myth.